Britney Spears And Marriage

Britney Spears, in her “marriage,” has done nothing to promote the sanctity of marriage. She has, however, revealed what is wrong with many marriages in America today. She married one morning and had it annulled that same day. It was a “joke” gone bad they said. There was no sense of commitment or permanence.

She was reared going to church, educated in a private Christian school, and most of her adolescent friends were professing Christians.

She did what many couples do. She patterned the old adage: “Ready, fire, aim.”
Steps to the altar often involved becoming romantically involved, exhilaration over having a big beautiful wedding, and little thought is given to developing the qualities resulting in permanence in marriage. The first of these steps often involves emotional attachment resulting in sexual promiscuity. Thereafter, it is often more about the wedding than about the marriage.

A good marriage involves commitment, a sense of permanence, total sharing, common goals, and playing the game for keeps. There is a mutual commitment to hammering out difficulties on the anvil of devotion, respect, and mutual regard for each other. No marriage is immuned from difficulties or exempt from problems and without these essential ingredients is doomed to failure.

Love isn’t just a prolonged orgasm it is an organism, a growing relationship. If a marriage isn’t a mutually supportive and responsive organism it results in two lonely, competing individuals living together. Such a deteriorated state can be avoided by employing these traits in order to make marriage last.

· Value your mate and let it be shown. Don’t hesitate to often say, “I value you.”
· Develop a “we” and “our” outlook, not an “I” or “mine” mentality.
· Be empathetic with others and less sensitive and mindful of yourself. Always
be considerate of the other.
· Curb your temper and resolve not to injure your partner in word or deed.
· In all things be patient.
· Work at developing a pleasant disposition.
· Don’t try to dominate and do show a conciliatory attitude.
· Avoid always trying to vindicate yourself.
· Enjoy common recreation together.
· Develop mutual hobbies.
· Share work projects.
· Worship together regularly.
· Develop spiritually mature friends.
· Express appreciation and acknowledge thanks.
· Compliment achievements.
· Never speak negatively of one another in public.
· Groom yourself so as to be attractive and appealing.


There is an old proverb that says people don’t drown in the ocean they drown in puddles. Likewise marriages drown in little things not properly dealt with.

Reviewing this list and striving to fulfill the best of each item is easier than a divorce. Many people getting a divorce aren’t really happy about it. They have become disenchanted and discouraged and have give up. Studies show there is great emotional trauma, hurt, and anger in divorce. It is one of the most upsetting things that can happen to a person. A lot of people are nagged by the thought they have done something morally wrong. Working at maintaining a good marriage and if necessary recovering from a marriage gone sour is cheaper and less painful than a divorce.

As a couple memorize the following and resolve to make these traits the framework on which your marriage is built.

“Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong, but rejoices in right. Love bears all thins, believes all things, hopes all things, endures al things” (I Corinthians 13: 4-7).