Stay Out of the Gaslight

        Have you ever been gaslighted? Perhaps you have been, but are unfamiliar with the term.

        The term “gaslighting” comes from the name of a 1938 play and 1944 film, “Gaslight,” in which a husband manipulates his wife into thinking she has a mental illness.

        Gaslighting is one of the tactics used to undermine our faith and bring confusion. Gaslighting thrives on instilling fear and insecurity.

        Gaslighting attempts to erode our confidence, causing us to doubt our accomplishments and progress. Gaslighting is seeking to confuse and manipulate believers. Some Scriptural principles can help us overcome a gaslighter’s attempts to manipulate us.

        Know what God thinks of a gaslighter. 

        “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy” (Proverbs 12:22).

        Gaslighters often employ deceit and lies to twist the truth and confuse their victims. “An honest witness does not deceive, but a false witness pours out lies” (Proverbs 14:5).

        Guard your own emotions. A person seeking attention is a candidate for being gaslighted. 

        “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ” (Galatians 1:10).

        In the midst of gaslighting, it is crucial to guard your mind and focus on thoughts that are true, noble, and pure.

        Gaslighting attempts to diminish your confidence and self-worth, but the Spirit of God empowers us with courage, love, and self-discipline.

        Gaslighters often drop “love bombs” (flattery) to gain a person’s confidence in order to build their confidence so the gaslight will be readily accepted. A love bomb is an undue praise and confidence booster. Don’t be a victim of flattery.

        To guard yourself against gaslighting, know who you are. To know who you are, get a good understanding of Whose you are.  

        “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).

Servants All

        I had the blessing of serving as chairman of the Board of the National Board of Directors of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA) with headquarters in Kansas City, Missouri. It was one of the more rewarding jobs I have ever had. No, not monetary, there was none of that. The payoff was in the gratitude of serving such a worthy cause.

        I have a graphic reminder of this. I was named as a member of the FCA Hall of Champions. As a reminder I was given a miniature bronze statue of Jesus washing the feet of Peter. On the base is the Scripture: “…Jesus… said, If anyone wants to be first, He must be the very last, and the servant of all” (Mark 9: 35).

        Christian servanthood is a foundational principle rooted in the life and teachings of Jesus Christ. It emphasizes humility, selflessness, and a willingness to serve others as an expression of faith and love. Unlike worldly leadership, which often seeks power and status, Christian servanthood calls believers to adopt a posture of humility and service. Jesus exemplified this when He washed the feet of His disciples, an act typically reserved for the lowest servant. In doing so, He taught that true greatness in the Kingdom of God is found in serving others.

        The apostle Paul echoed this message in Philippians 2:3-7, urging believers to consider others more important than themselves and to adopt the mindset of Christ, who “made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.” This model of servanthood is not about weakness, but about strength channeled through compassion and love. It challenges Christians to look beyond their own needs and extend grace, mercy, and assistance to those around them, whether in church, community, or everyday life.

        Christian servanthood is also a response to God’s love. As believers recognize the immense grace they have received, they are moved to serve others not out of obligation but out of gratitude. It is an active expression of faith, fulfilling Jesus’ command to love one another. Through acts of service, Christians reflect the character of Christ, advance the mission of the Church, and offer a living testimony of God’s transforming power.

        To test your spirit of servanthood monitor how you feel and react the next time you are given an opportunity to serve someone or a cause. Is it “Who do you think I am, your servant?” Or, if possible, do you serve them?

        Every follower of Jesus must realize their reason for being left on earth is to serve the Lord. You must change your way of thinking from “Me” centered thinking to “Him” centered thinking.

        As Jesus walked along the beach He called men to be His disciples and follow Him. That is still His call offered to every believer today.

        Remember, “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master” (Matthew 10:24).

Angels, Cherubim, and Seraphim

Three distinct celestial beings are mentioned in Scripture: angels, cherubim, and seraphim.

“Are they not all ministering spirits, sent out to render service for the sake of those who will inherit salvation?” (Hebrews 1: 14).

Angels appear throughout Scripture. The word angel comes from the Greek word “angelos” meaning “messenger.” The corresponding Hebrew word is “malakh” also meaning “messenger.” 

The terms are sometimes used to designate human messengers (Hag. 1:13, Mal. 2:7), but most often are used to refer to supernatural, celestial beings. In instances when the term refers to human beings it is identifying them as messengers of God as are supernatural angels, that is, messengers.

To my limited knowledge the Bible does not describe them as having wings.  Mythology and medieval art represent them as having wings, and thus a current concept is that they have wings. This incorrect representation is further encouraged by confusing them with the two other supernatural beings now to be identified.            

The words Cherub and Cherubim in speaking of “angels’ wings” occur about a hundred times in the Bible. Only in the Bible translation entitled “God’s Word,” is the Hebrew “k?r? ?m” rendered “angels’ wings.” All others translate it “cherubim.” That one reads:  “The sound of the angels’ wings was heard as far as the outer courtyard” (Ezekiel 10: 5). All other Bibles translated it more accurately as “cherubim.”

Another form of supernatural, creating beings is cherubim.  This word comes from the Greek, “cherubim” or Hebrew, “kerubim.” Their primary task is that of serving as guards. They guard the way to the tree of life (Gen. 3:24), and either support or flank the throne of God (Psalm 80:1; 99:1).

Cherubim are spoken of as being winged.  Their swiftness is spoken of as being like the wind.  They were mysterious, heavenly beings represented as winged lions with human faces (Ezek. 41:18ff) .

Two wooden replicas of cherubim, gold covered with wings outspread, were placed over the cover or “mercy seat” of the Ark of the Covenant, protecting the holy contents.

Seraphim form a third order of celestial beings and are spoken of as being winged (Isaiah 6:2,3) . The word is from the Hebrew “saraph.” They are mentioned only once in the Bible, and that is in the Old Testament.  They appear to be attendants waiting to carry out the bequests of the Lord.

Most scholars consider these three orders as separate forms of celestial beings.

Much is said in Scripture regarding angels watching over us that is a mystery. There are some “mysteries of the faith,” regarding angels watch over us that is not fully understood. God has told us all we need to know. Accept it and thank Him.

Self-Control – Part Two

        “The fruit of the Spirit is ….self-control” Galatians 5: 23.

        Self-control is the ability to regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in the face of temptations and impulses. It involves resisting short-term temptations in order to achieve long-term goals. Self-control is crucial for personal discipline, decision-making, and maintaining healthy relationships and habits.

        From a biblical standpoint a Christian is to be a disciplined person. Numerous examples are used to illustrate this. The discipline of a soldier is one.

        “You therefore must endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.  No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier. And also if anyone competes in athletics, he is not crowned unless he competes according to the rules” (II Timothy 2: 3 – 5).

        Self-control is not a one time lifetime achievement. It has to be exercised as a lifestyle repeated over and over meeting each challenge as various conditions arise. “Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ… (I Peter 1: 13). To gird up means to be resolutely determined.

        “Now no chastening (discipline) seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12: 11). Self-control often necessitates giving up some short term pleasures for long term benefits.

        Self-control involves aiding yourself by avoiding temptation. For example, if you are trying to exercise self-control regarding weight control avoid taking a bag of donuts home. Avoid the allure that tests your will. Figuratively, if you are not going fishing, stay out of the bait shop. 

        The Scripture uses the term “strive” related to withstanding temptation. The Greek word for “strive” is agonizesthe, in which you correctly hear the English word “agonize.” Don’t expect self-control to always be easy.

        Paul says that Christians exercise self-control like the Greek athletes, only our goal is eternal, not temporal. “Every athlete [agonizomenos] exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable” (1 Corinthians 9:25). So he says, “I discipline my body and keep it under control” (1 Corinthians 9:27). Self-control is saying no to sinful desires, even when it hurts. Such is a classic example.

        Self-control being a fruit of the Spirit it is a partnership, the Spirit’s fruit and our will. Thus, Paul answers: “For this I toil, struggling [agonizomenos] with all His energy that He powerfully works within me” (Colossians 1:29). We “agonize” by the power of Christ, not our own will.

        Remember “it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure” (Philippians 2:13). Every good thing we do is the fruit of the Spirit’s work in our lives.

Self-Control – Part One

        “The fruit of the Spirit is . . . self-control” Galatians 5: 23.

        Self-control is the ability to regulate one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in the face of temptations and impulses. 

        Parents often say to a misbehaving child, “Control yourself” while they fail to exercise self-control themselves.

        Self-control is negative and positive. It not only involves stopping a negative, but also starting a positive activity.

        Dieting is “Exhibit A.” Living in the well-fed part of the world which boasts some of the world’s best home cooks self-control is essential for good health. It requires not only stopping over indulging, but starting good dietary habits. It is often as difficult to do one as the other.

        The controlling factor is “self.” External factors are influential, but only the self can control one’s actions. Research shows that self-control is like a muscle: it can be strengthened over time with practice. Strategies such as setting clear goals, avoiding temptations, and using positive self-talk can help improve it.

        Often the impression is given that some people find it easy and others difficult to exercise it. False, everybody is challenged to employ it.

        Perhaps the term self-control is misleading and that causes difficulty. True biblical self-control is not merely self-employed will, it is the employment of spirit-control known as the “fruit of the spirit.” It is the engagement of the Holy Spirit along with self-will. The Spirit is the supercharger that empowers the self to act.

        Now back to the parent/child analogy. When the parent says “Control yourself” they are making it known their will is different than that of the child. At that moment the child makes a decision as to which will is to be obeyed. The likelihood of it being the parent’s will is largely dependent on the parent/child relationship. The child who loves the parent and knows of the parents love is much more likely to do the parent’s will and exercise self-control.

        Likewise, the person who knows the Father’s will and His love is all the more likely to exercise self-control and allow the fruit of the Spirit to control. They prefer to please the Lord rather than themselves.

        Now consider a bad habit about which you know the will of the Father. Do you love the Lord enough to want to please Him? If so, commit the matter to Him in love and ask for His empowering grace.

        Conversely, if there is a practice you want to start, commit it to the Father. Acknowledge your desire to please Him is stronger than your selfish self-will.

        We are to be “as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy” (I Peter 1:14 – 16).